If there is one thing I have learned over the past year it is that I am who I am.
A favorite quote of mine is: “The hardest challenge is to be yourself in a world where everyone is trying to make you be somebody else.”
For many years of my life I did what others expected me to do, wanted me to do or what I thought I should be doing. I would put aside who I really was, what I was really thinking or what I wanted to do so I wouldn’t “rock the boat” and so I could “fit in”.
Part of me was scared that people wouldn’t like me if they knew what I was really thinking or if I went against the grain. Now I realize that those people never really liked ME….how could they? They didn’t know ME. They just liked the illusion because it was what was expected….the quote on quote “norm”.
I now try my hardest to stay true to myself. I say what I feel. I call a spade a spade and I don’t sugar coat anything. I refuse to do something just because everyone else is or because that’s what’s expected of me.
Now the tricky part of this is that I refuse to quit being myself for my business. As a Beachbody Coach the “norm” is to always be upbeat, positive and basically a cheerleader. I have no problem doing that as the average person yearns to be happy and I want to see people have success. This is why I became a coach (well the discount is nice too – just being honest). However I will not mask that fact that I am human. I have good days and I have bad days. I have things that bother me, I speak my mind and yes, I use foul language. (GASP!!)
This is who I am and I refuse to change myself at all, for any reason. I know that this might hold me back as a coach to an extent but I’m ok with that. I would rather have it take me longer to be successful and have a team of people who like me for me, instead of who they think I am.
I tend to talk to people who are real with their feelings and who are truthful in what’s going on over those who portray a constant upbeat persona. I have more respect for people who can open up and be honest that life is not always a bed of roses and there are obstacles in life.
Ultimately it comes down to my favorite Dr. Seuss quote: “Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don’t matter, and those who matter don’t mind.”