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#Last90Days Challenge

Instagram is a place I spend a lot of time.

I have made a lot of friends, found a lot of empowered people to learn from, I’ve found motivation, and I’d like to think I provide some value and motivation to those who take the time to double tap and hopefully read the mini novels I sometimes (Okay…quite often) write under my photos.

Don’t follow me on Instragram? You can by clicking here & hitting that FOLLOW button!

Earlier this year I read the book Girl Wash Your Face by Rachel Hollis and it really spoke to me. It made me stop and think about my life… like REALLY stop and think about things.

It’s something I’ve been focused on this year and there has been a lot of change taking place behind the scenes of my writing and posts. It’s a bag of mixed emotions cause let’s be honest, facing your shit and owning up to your actions isn’t the easiest thing to do in the world but as Rachel Hollis says in her book…

If You're Unhappy That's On You

So when I was scrolling my feed and saw a lot of people joining the #Last90Days challenge that Rachel Hollis and her husband where hosting, I thought why not?!

(What more info on the challenge? Click here)

I started out Day 1 by reading the e-mails, watching the videos and listening to the podcasts listed. I felt fired up and began reflecting on one of the quotes and topics from the book Girl Wash Your Face…

Never Break A Promise To YourselfEver stop to think about that? Cause I hadn’t since I read the book.

If a friend or family member made a promise to you and time and time again broke their promise or left you hanging would you trust them anymore?

The answer to that is most likely no, yet we break promises to ourselves ALL. THE. TIME.

  • “I’m going to start eating healthy on Monday.”
  • “I’m going to start going to the gym.”
  • “I’m going to make time to read.”
  • “I’m going to make time to relax.”

Any of these sound familiar? I’m sure they do and I’m sure there is stuff on this list that you made excuses NOT to go thru with because it’s easier to grab fast food, lay on the couch watching Netflix or put everyone else needs before your own.

It’s time to stop flaking on yourself and make yourself the priority you deserve to be!

I am sooooo guilty of breaking promises to myself and I am determined to stop doing that. I am going to use the next 90 days (well 87 since it’s day 3 as I’m writing this) to get my shit together and start treating myself with the respect that I deserve.

If you struggle with any of this stuff I encourage you to join the #Last90Days challenge, connect with me on Instagram and end your year STRONG!

Which promise are you most guilty of breaking to yourself? Drop a comment below and let’s chat!

 

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Adventures in SoCal

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Wanderlust is something I feel in my soul. There is a very strong, burning desire to travel within me and I have a list a mile long of places I want to go.

For over 5 years now I have been wanting to visit Southern California again. I had only been there once in my life and I was 13 years old, so I didn’t appreciate anything.

I’ve felt this strong pull to the west coast for the last 3 years. Most of the people I’ve been meeting on-line, clients I’ve been working with and opportunities to learn and grow have all stemmed from the west coast. It’s like the Universe has been trying to drag me there and like the stubborn person I am, I kept coming up with reasons not to go.

I mean who does that?!

Thankfully I removed all of my excuses a few weeks ago and I finally boarded a flight to LA for 5 days.

From the second I saw the California mountains from my window seat on the plane, I was in love. (and the 5 hours of being kicked by the little kids next to me and behind me, who were headed to Disney with their family, all faded away.)

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Yeah, there was smoke from the fires that poor California seems to battle every year, but there was something about the landscape that just filled me with happiness.

In true East Coast fashion, as soon as I landed I had to head over to In-n-Out to find out what all of the fuss was about. Let me tell you something… this burger did NOT disappoint. I was told I had to order the Double Double Animal Style and it was amazing. The fries were meh and I was warned I had to eat them first because if they get cold you might as well just throw them out, this piece of advice was spot on…In-n-Out needs to up their fry game!

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After I stuffed my face in true foodie form I headed to the coast and just took in the views  for a bit. Never in my life have I sat somewhere and felt the calmness and sense of peace that I did while taking in this view. If would have sat in this one spot for all 5 days, I would have been happy. How could you have this view and be unhappy?!

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To be honest, there wasn’t a single beach I visited that didn’t make my soul happy and make me feel like I needed to come up with a plan immediately to relocate. There is just something about the vibe out there that made me feel like I was home.

I didn’t take nearly as many photos as I should have. For once in my life I found myself not reaching for my phone and just enjoying the moment. It was such a refreshing feeling to be unplugged and relaxed.

We should probably all try doing that more often.

Below are some photos that I did manage to snag during the trip…I really need to bring my DSLR with me next time and have fun documenting.

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Amazing mural I spotted while driving around the Huntington or Newport area.

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Soaking up the SoCal sun on Newport Beach

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Santa Monica Pier

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Santa Monica Pier

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View from La Jolla, San Diego

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Redondo Beach

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The Cinnamon Roll French Toast was legit at Barney’s Beanery

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View from The Queen Mary in Long Beach – The final stop on my 5 day SoCal adventure

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Took the Red Eye home and caught the sunrise over PA.

I would be lying if I said I wasn’t heartbroken as I boarded my flight home to the incredibly humid east coast. SoCal definitely stole my heart during our 5 short days together and I can’t wait to go back and be reunited.

 

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It’s Your Life…No One Else’s

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It’s your life…don’t let anyone make you feel guilty for living it the way you want.

Lately, I’ve seen too many people “policing” posts on Instagram and it needs to stop.

Just because the way you do something works, doesn’t mean that it is the only way to do it.

Offering advice or sharing what has worked for you is totally acceptable. Hell, I encourage it! That is how we learn about new things and you might inspire someone who is stuck on their journey to try something new or take their progress to the next level. That is how I ended up trying keto and I’m sooooo grateful for that conversation.

What is NOT acceptable is making someone feel bad about their journey or like they are doing something wrong.

I don’t believe there is really a right or wrong way to go about this. I mean yes, I have a pretty firm stance on cleanses and “quick fix diets” but that’s only because they haven’t worked in the long term for myself or any of my clients in the past.

(If you have had success with these I would LOVE to have a conversation with you about it!)

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Everyone is different. Everyone has different circumstances and everyone has different genetics. Health and Fitness is NOT one size fits all, so quit trying to make it that way.

  • If you’re keto and just count your net carbs (or if you’re strict keto) and it works for YOU….Awesome!
  • If you do Weight Watchers but don’t workout yet and it works for YOU….Awesome!
  • If you workout but eat whatever you feel like eating and it works for YOU…..Awesome!
  • If your lifestyle works for you and your family is open to joining YOU….Awesome!

If you’re doing any of the above and someone is giving you a hard time about it because it’s different from what they’re doing…give them the middle finger and walk away. You don’t need that shit in your life.

This journey is hard enough without people giving you shit because you’re not doing something exactly the way they are.

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You Were Born a Blank Canvas

IMG_3813When we are born the world is ours. We are capable of anything we put our minds to. Don’t believe me? Watch a baby try to figure out how to walk. No matter how many times they fall over and cry, they get back up and try again. They don’t stop until they master that shit because failure is NOT an option.

It isn’t until we get older and we begin receiving messages from the people around us about the “way things are” they we begin to doubt ourselves and allow failure to exist.

Any of this sound familiar?

  • Security comes from working a 9-5 job.
  • Everyone in our family struggles with their weight.
  • It’s expensive to eat healthy.
  • Gym memberships are a luxury and most people don’t use them anyway.
  • People like us never get ahead.
  • Money doesn’t grow on trees.
  • What’s the point of setting goals when the odds are stacked against you?

You started filling up with a lifetime’s worth of beliefs, which mostly have nothing to do with who you are, what you desire or what is even necessarily true, before you even entered grade school. Forget about all of the outside noise that fills your head once you’re an adolescent and have the noise your friends have been hearing added into the mix as well.

This limited mindset ends up being passed down from generation to generation without anyone even realizing it. After hearing it so many times, it becomes part of your subconscious and therefore becomes ingrained in you even though these beliefs have NOTHING to do with your reality, your goals or who YOU are aspire to be as a person.

It’s time to wake up and make a change.

Many of us don’t even realize these subconscious beliefs are ruling our lives, so identifying them is where you need to start in order to undo them.

Make a list of how you view health & fitness, money, yourself and your situation. Then really look at them and see how much of what you wrote is true and how much of it is just what you think to be true.

—–> I highly recommend reading the book You Are A Badass by Jen Sincero if you have not already. (and if you still struggle with this stuff, read it again, highlight key parts of the book that speak to you and keep a notebook nearby so you can actually DO the exercises in it….they’re not just there for fun, people!)

Once you identify the limiting beliefs that your subconscious thinks are real, you can begin rewriting the script.

I have found that starting with positive affirmations are a great first step. They really help to change the internal dialog we have with ourselves and changing that dialog helps to change your mindset.

This is where many people give up and roll their eyes…. because let’s be honest, positive affirmations sound hokey and dumb, but they are NOT and they work.

Examples of Positive Affirmations:

  • I am healthy and active.
  • I control my body, my body doesn’t control me.
  • I believe in myself and can accomplish anything I put my mind to.
  • Money is available whenever I need it.
  • I am amazing. I am smart. I am successful.
  • Happiness is all around me.

The first time I read about them I almost lost my eyeballs in the back of my head from rolling them so dramatically. It was the most ridiculous thing I ever heard. <— Limiting belief!

When I was told to record myself saying them and listen to them while I drive, I thought the person coaching me was out of their minds. But I did it! I gave it a shot and after realizing that no one could hear me or knew what I was doing, they were nice to hear.

Next you have to kick fear in the teeth.

I won’t lie, I struggle with this one ALL THE TIME. I have perfectionist tendencies. I’m super critical of myself and I sell myself short constantly.

The only thing I give myself credit for is being perfectly imperfect. Over the years I have learned how to own my shit so I can admit that I am inconsistent, I’m my own worst enemy and I should probably practice what I preach more often. <—- Not a limiting belief if it’s true FYI.

I’m a work in progress, what can I say?!

We need to stop wasting hours, days and even years of our lives trying to perfect our next move. Overthinking will NEVER get us ahead in life, only action will.

If you can just focus on taking the next step and doing the best you can to accomplish it, you’ll make progress. Sometimes it’ll be backwards progress, but I promise you there is a lesson to be learned with it and if you open yourself up to that lesson, your next step will be a leap in the right direction.

You have to fight for the life you want to live. You can’t sit around waiting for someone to save you…cause that is never going to happen. It’s up to YOU to unf*ck yourself, cause no one is going to do it for you.

You have a choice in life: Stay paralyzed with fear and continue to be unhappy wondering “what if” -or- start making change and see where it takes you.

Which will you choose?

 

 

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Own Your Shit

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The secret to success is in your daily routine. You’ll never change your life until you change something you do daily.

As I’ve said before, these changes don’t have to huge. They can be small, they can seem simple, but they have to happen and you have to build upon them in order to create that big change in your life.

-> Seriously, if you struggle in this area I highly recommend a book called The Compound Effect or The Slight Edge. Go read one of them!

This week I challenge you to pick one thing that you need to change and do it!

If you fail at getting your workouts done when you’re supposed to, I want you to set the alarm earlier and get it done before you do anything else for the day. Getting it done first will ensure that NOTHING can come up and keep you from reaching that goal.

-> Now if you hit snooze 5 times and sabotage yourself, that’s on you and you have to face yourself in the mirror and take the blame…you won’t like how that feels, trust me!

Being aware of your habits and the changes you make to them will really help you to reach your goals…actually it’s a big key to this journey.

Own your bullshit.

Do something to change it.

You’ll be happy you did!

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Find Yourself and Be That

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This is something I’ve really been working on this year.

Filtering out the noise of who you should be vs who you are, is not an easy task. It can take time to figure it all out, but when you do, you’ll be 100% you and you shouldn’t change that for anyone.

You’ll attract your tribe, find happiness within yourself and if you suffer from anxiety…well…that’ll ease up too, because you won’t be worried about others accepting you. You’ll accept yourself and all your weirdness and no one else opinion will matter anymore.

  • Try new things.
  • Go on adventures.
  • Meet new people.
  • Read new books.
  • Learn something new.

Do what inspires you and figure out what makes you happy! It’s time you live the life you were meant to live, without the fear of disappointing others.

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There Is No Perfection

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There is no perfection on this journey. The only thing that matters is consistency.

If you focus on being perfect all the time, you will rob yourself of joy because there is no such thing as perfect…we are all perfectly imperfect.

Failure is part of the journey. It’s where you learn the most about yourself and it’s not really failure unless you stop trying.

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There is about 17 years and so much failure I can’t even count, between these photos. The reason why I have a before & after is because I never gave up!

I failed, I cried and I got mad at myself but I always kept pushing forward…and so can you!

You just have to be patient and remain focused on what your goal is.

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I’m Still Alive!

still_aliveWow…it’s been a hot minute since I’ve sat down and shared anything here.

In one of my previous posts I mentioned that life threw our family some curveballs last year. My father-in-law, who lived with us, passed away last January and things began to go downhill for me while he was in the hospital. From no time to workout, to stress, to meals from vending machines and people bringing up bagels, sandwiches and others foods I didn’t normally eat, the weight began to creep on. After the funeral, things just felt weird. The bad eating became a habit and that habit left me feeling unmotivated and tired. ALL. THE. TIME. I would say “that’s it, it’s time to get back to basics” and begin a program only to fall off the wagon after a week. Sigh…

Team all of that up with my son’s anxiety hitting an all time high (if you follow me on Instagram you already know a little about this) I had to stop working and begin doing homeschool with him because it was so bad he couldn’t go to school. Talk about stress and the perfect excuse to say “fuck it” right?!

Yeah…I totally called bullshit on myself there. If you know me, you know I don’t sugar coat anything…even when it comes to myself. I believe the only way to be successful at changing your habits is to acknowledge that they are fucked up to begin with. You can’t blame anyone for your problems. Yes, they may create them and sometimes you have no control over what happens in life, but you ALWAYS have control over how you handle and react to them.

Last May I turned 40 and as a gift, my good friend signed us up for the Hershey Half Marathon. I know, you’re probably thinking, “Why does your friend hate you?” but she knew it was something I’ve been wanting to do and she herself had completed her first half marathon a few months before so we thought let’s do it together. Training for it actually helped me to get back on track and I began to enjoy running again…until it got hot out. That’s when I began to hate it and questioned the decisions I make in life. Our race was in October and thanks to my amazing luck, I injured my foot and was not able to run it. I contemplated walking the 13.1 since I’m a fast walker, but we were leaving for Disney the following weekend and I didn’t want to hurt myself any further before the trip. Instead, we still went to Hershey and had a fun friends weekend, which was pretty damn awesome.

Of course I used my injury as an excuse for the next few months. I started my on again off again relationship with workouts and meal prep but thankfully I didn’t gain more weight. This continued until just recently when I started walking and doing some turtle running along with some meal prep and home workouts, but something still didn’t feel right. There was no real motivation and I found myself coming up with reasons why I could put my workout off… or I just wouldn’t put any true effort into them. I was just going through the motions and let’s be honest, theres no point in doing that at all.

About 6 weeks ago I started working again and I made the decision to join the gym. Gasp! I know… I said I joined the gym. I couldn’t even bring myself to go into the gym to join, I did it on-line! Talk about lame, right?! But I’ve been going and I found a gym lover to help me get over my fears and feel comfortable there, which has been awesome! I even made the decision to give Keto a try, so it’s been an interesting week of fasting and learning how to not eat carbs and embrace fat as my main food source.

Soooooo…. I know that was long and if you’ve gotten this far, thank you for actually caring enough to read. I’m hoping to share more of my gym journey here as well as some of the Keto recipes I find try so I won’t be such a blog slacker anymore.

Have you ever fell into a fitness rut? If so, I would love to hear about how you were able to overcome it and find motivation again!

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Fitness Finds: The Mills at Jersey Gardens

I am the first to admit that I loathe shopping for clothes. I love jeans and t-shirts, but shopping for them makes me stabby. Dresses and shoes…um….no thank you. Make-up?! Bwahahahahaaa….no way!

So when the opportunity to team up with The Mills at Jersey Gardens presented itself I was hesitant, because as I said, I don’t like clothes shopping and I’m a jeans and t-shirt kinda girl. I know nothing about style trends, make-up and the hot color of the season. Why would I do this?!

Well…I do love shopping for new running shoes and workout clothes. This made me think and my hesitation went away as soon as I saw how many athletic stores they had. I then realized that the New Year was almost here and people would be gearing up to get healthy. That’s when excitement set in! I could actually shop and share fitness apparel finds for those who are planning to get started with a health & fitness routine in 2016!

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I thought about getting fancy for this shopping trip and then I realized it just wasn’t me, so I tossed on my jeans, a sweatshirt and a pair of Chucks and headed out to shop with my husband Mike, who happened to be off that day.

You can take a personal trainer out of workout clothes, but don’t mess with her jeans and Chucks!

In all honesty, I had a ton of fun shopping and I ended up shopping for more than just fitness attire. Don’t worry, I don’t see myself becoming a fashionista anytime soon, but I do see myself returning to The Mills at Jersey Gardens again for some holiday shopping!

Want to see some of my recommendations for fitness attire to get your New Year’s Resolutions started off right? Be sure to follow along on Instagram as I take over @MillsAtJersey!

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Holiday Survival: Essential Oils Edition

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I think it’s pretty safe to say that we have all heard of essential oils or know someone who uses them or is a distributor of them. Being the skeptic that I normally am, I didn’t buy into this hype at first, but I finally caved after ending up in the hospital with terrible headaches last year.

A friend of mine sent me some Young Living essential oils samples, I gave them a try and they worked!

(Note: If you receive samples, be very careful when opening the tiny packets. I was not and spilled Lavender oil EVERYWHERE. It resulted in the entire family having the best night of sleep they’ve every had, so I guess it wasn’t the worst experience ever.)

As we head into the holiday season and the winter, I thought this would be a good topic to cover, so I spoke with some friends who swear by their love of oils and put together a short list of how essential oils can help you to relax, destress and just flat out survive the holidays!

Plus they apparently make good stocking stuffers too!

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Lavender: Can be diffused for a calming and comforting scent. You can add a few drops to Epsom salts for a relaxing nighttime bath. They can also be added to lotions or use with a carrier oil to apply to skin to soothe and help promote relaxation before sleep. You can add a few drops to distilled water in a spray bottle and spray on pillows and sheets as a linen spray to promote sleep.

Frankincense: Can be diffused or inhaled directly to increase spirituality and inner strength, lift mood and help balance emotions. I have also heard that when inhaled, it has been shown to reduce heart rate and high blood pressure. It has anti-anxiety and depression reducing abilities, but unlike prescription medications it does not have negative side effects and does not cause unwanted drowsiness. (This is not proven…just personal accounts from people I have spoken to.)

Peppermint: Peppermint has many uses that can come in handy for the holidays. It can be added to herbal tea to help soothe upset stomach. Some people also use with a carrier oil to rub topically on the stomach for stomach issues or use it topically to help with muscle stiffness and pain caused by shopping marathons again.

While I am not tied to Young Living Essential oils, I know that they can be used in recipes requiring peppermint extract. Substitute 1/8 tsp of Young Living peppermint oil per teaspoon of extract. After that a drop at a time can be added until desired taste. (Note: Check the labels before using other brands of oil for ingestion. Many oils are compromised with synthetic materials and I would not recommend ingesting that.)

Thieves oil:  A proprietary blend developed by Young Living but it has been duplicated and I have seen it elsewhere. Thieves essential oil blend was inspired by the legend of four 15th-century French thieves who formulated a special aromatic combination composed of clove, rosemary, and other botanicals they used while robbing the victims of the plague. Amazingly they did not fall ill. Therefore Thieves oil supports healthy immune function.

There are so many oils that I couldn’t possibly cover them all, so I found a neat little chart for you instead!

Essential Oils

How to use oils: Apply directly on the desired area according to dilution instructions. Always use a carrier oil, which is a non-essential oil used to dilute the essential oils. This also makes your oils last longer. Some examples of a carrier oil are: coconut oil, sweet almond oil, grapeseed oil, jojoba oil and olive oil.

-Research has shown that Essential oils quickly penetrate the skin. because of this ability, essential oils can affect the cells of the human body within minutes. Suggested areas for application: feet, behind the ears, wrists on the front of neck, and base of the skull.

Aromatic use: Diffuse oils with an ultrasonic diffuser. Putting a drop in your cupped hand and inhale slowly for 1 minute. Smell it directly from the bottle. Put a couple drops on cotton balls near air vents at home or in the car. Essential Oils containing sesquiterpines have the ability to pass the blood brain barrier making them an effective alternative in enhancing mental clarity and memory, while also promoting calmness and peace of mind.

 So, as you can see, essential oils can allow you to take control of your own health and wellness while keeping your environment free of toxic chemicals. They can help to reduce some stress and take the edge off of the holidays season without turning to nighttime cocktails while wrapping presents or driving from store to store.
For more information, contact your local Young Living or other independent essential oils rep and see how they can help you!
Already using oils in your daily life? Share your favorite oil and how you use it in the comments below!
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**Disclamer: These statements have not been evaluated by the FDA. Products ideas and techniques mentioned are not intended to diagnose, treat, cure or prevent any disease. This is not a sponsored post. I did not receive any compensation to write this. They are just my thoughts and opinions.

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