Tag Archives: fitness motivation

There Is No Perfection

perfection doesn't exist

There is no perfection on this journey. The only thing that matters is consistency.

If you focus on being perfect all the time, you will rob yourself of joy because there is no such thing as perfect…we are all perfectly imperfect.

Failure is part of the journey. It’s where you learn the most about yourself and it’s not really failure unless you stop trying.

IMG_7186

There is about 17 years and so much failure I can’t even count, between these photos. The reason why I have a before & after is because I never gave up!

I failed, I cried and I got mad at myself but I always kept pushing forward…and so can you!

You just have to be patient and remain focused on what your goal is.

Advertisements

Leave a comment

Filed under Fitness Inspiration, Health & Fitness, My Ramblings

Effort

success effort
Effort.

That’s what it all comes down to. Anyone can walk thru the doors of the gym and just take up space…sitting around looking at their phone, socializing or walking at a leisurely pace on the treadmill instead of actually doing work and challenging themselves.

Now don’t get me wrong, if you’re walking at a leisurely pace and you’re sweating and breathing hard, you’re putting in effort and you’re doing awesome. Everyone has to start somewhere…I know walking was where I started and you’ll progress from there.

That’s where the effort comes in.

Workouts aren’t supposed to be pretty. They’re supposed to be tough. They’re supposed to challenge you. They’re supposed to make you want to cry at time because they’re just that hard.

There are going to be times that you fail on reps or you can’t lift quite as heavy as you did the week before. Maybe your pace is slower during your run or you can’t do as many flights of stairs on the stair master ….you know what?

That’s okay!

As long as you’re showing up and you’re putting in the effort it’s going to pay off in the long run because you didn’t quite or make an excuse as to why you couldn’t try your best!

DON-T-HALF-ASS-ANYTHING-WHATEVER-YOU-DO-ALWAY-S-US

 

 

Leave a comment

Filed under Health & Fitness

The Struggle Is Real, Yo!

struggle-is-real-

Struggling is part of life.

It’s something we need to accept and be okay with. Over the last 8 years I have struggled A LOT!

I struggled to finally make the decision to do something about my weight.

I struggled with how that decision changed many relationships in my life (both with food and people.)

I struggled with feeling bad every time I ate something “bad” or skipping a workout.

I struggled with the decision to have excess skin removed from my belly after losing over 100 lbs and maintaining it for over a year.

I struggled when I lost all of my motivation last year and gained back 25 lbs. Feelings of failure and fear took over and left me paralyzed for a long time.

I struggled with the decision to join the gym after having a bad experience while overweight at one. I also struggled to go alone when my gym partner stopped going because I allowed self doubt to take over.

Struggling means there is a lesson to learn and it’s time for us to grow.

Struggling is okay. Giving up is not.

Leave a comment

Filed under Health & Fitness

Don’t Listen To The Naysayers

IMG_1286Don’t listen to people who say weight loss doesn’t last…because it does…but YOU have to put in the work.

There are no quick fixes or magic pills. Only hard work and dedication. You can’t eat well and exercise until you reach your goal and then go back to eating crap and never leaving the couch. (Trust me…I’ve attempted it…it doesn’t work. Sorry.)

It has to become a lifestyle!

The photos above are 16 years apart! The one on the left was a few months after I gave birth to my daughter, and years before I decided to do something about my weight. The photo on the right was taken recently, about 8 years after I decided I had enough of being overweight and hating the reflection in the mirror.

This progress wasn’t easy.

There were a lot of ups and downs (emotionally and on the scale) but I realized that I couldn’t have my shitty habits AND maintain the weight I was happy at.

As I’ve recently shared, these last 1.5 yrs were not easy and I lost focus. I gained back 25lbs and felt like crap, but I regained my focus and feel soooooo much better now.

It’s never too later to make a change. Just remember that this change can’t be short term. It needs to be a total mindset change. It isn’t easy to do, but holy fuck is it worth it!

Leave a comment

Filed under Health & Fitness

Don’t Be A Size Queen

Disclaimer: This is actually an old post I did on Instagram while I was in my blog rut. As a matter of fact, I’ve been pulling a lot of inspiration from the microblogging I was doing over there…sssshhhhh don’t tell anyone. Just enjoy…

IMG_4642

I bought these boyfriend jeans during the summer and wasn’t able to wear them until recently.

The tag said they were my size, but sadly, they were too tight when I got home.

(Lesson here…always try shit on…our sizing system is total bullshit and varies from store to store and from style to style. I would think boyfriend jeans would run larger than skinny jeans…I was mistaken.)

In the past, after losing weight and busting my ass in the gym, having to put on a “larger” size would have depressed me. Much like the scale, I allowed a number, this time on a tag, THAT NO ONE COULD EVEN SEE, depress me.

What the actual fuck?!?!

Looking back on stuff like that makes me want to smack myself. Really hard.

I allowed stupid things to rob me of happiness during my journey.

The scale, a tag inside of a pair of jeans…let’s not forgot comparing yourself to others on social media. <insert gigantic eye roll here>

SO. DAMN. DUMB.

My point with all of this is simple….

  • Keep your eyes on your own journey.
  • Celebrate every victory you have. (Especially non-scale ones.)
  • Don’t allow the scale to dictate your life.
  • Don’t squeeze yourself into a pair of jeans or not wear a pair simply because the tag inside has a certain number on it.

Wear what makes you feel confident and don’t worry about wether it says S/M/L or if the number is 2/10/16 etc.

The size you wear doesn’t matter…your confidence does!

 

1 Comment

Filed under Fashion, Health & Fitness

Why Are You Waiting?

just go for it
Everyone wants to get into better shape and eat healthier. I see posts all the time about it being a new month…new week…. and what not. But I have a question for you…

Why wait until then?

If being healthier and getting into better shape is something you really want to do, why not start right now?

Why wait for a Monday, or a new month or even a new year…when EVERYONE joins the gym and it’s super crowded? Why not join now and get comfortable with it while it’s empty?

Why wait to start eating healthier?

Do we really need to eat every food offered to use at BBQ’s or parties? Or drink ALL of the alcohol?

Why don’t you start practicing balance with food now? Say no to the things you REALLY don’t enjoy and allow the things you do, but without stuffing yourself to the point of regret.

I was the girl who set the resolution EVERY DAMN YEAR to lose the weight and get my shit together, but I failed EVERY DAMN YEAR because I felt I had to be perfect with my “diet”. Check out Monday’s post Be Stubborn, Yet Flexible for my thoughts on this.

Making the decision to change your habits now can really be a deciding factor for if you stick with them for the long haul.

Being healthy isn’t about deprivation, it’s about balance. It’s about making time to take care of yourself and ensuring it’s priority. Perfection is NOT part of the process…if you think it is, you need to change that mentality now!

There are going to be good days and bad days. Good weeks and bad weeks. You’re going to want to give up but you can’t… you have to believe in yourself and know that YOU ARE WORTH IT.

f56eded6d577a58212a154e44047ecc4

Life gets hectic and we get pulled in many directions at once, but we can’t pour from an empty cup! Being a healthy version of yourself shouldn’t have to wait until a new week, new month or even a new year…so why are you really waiting?

Leave a comment

Filed under Health & Fitness

Be Stubborn, Yet Flexible.

Be Stubborn Yet Flexible
The quote above is probably the most important lesson I’ve learned over the years.

When we first start out, we form this plan in our heads. We will workout every day, we eat healthy/balanced meals and we love every minute of it.

Then reality sets in.

We have families that need stuff ALL THE TIME. We get tired… not to mention sore after the first day at the gym. And why is that we crave EVERYTHING that is not going to help us get to our goal as soon as we set the goal to eat better?!

It’s like the odds are stacked against us. It just becomes easier to stay overweight and out of shape. Right?!

Nope.

You just need to become flexible in the methods you use to achieve your goals. You need to remember that you didn’t gain the weight over night, so you’re not going to lose it overnight. Perfection doesn’t exist. You need to have patience with yourself and realize that one misstep doesn’t mean you have to throw in the towel and face fuck a pizza because you’re a failure.

Just keep challenging yourself and find what works for YOU.

Maybe you start with cardio or yoga and then end up switching over to weight lifting.

Maybe you start with clean eating, then go vegetarian, back to clean eating and now keto.

Maybe you only do at-home workouts and then finally build the confidence and join the gym.

Maybe it’s all of these examples but in reverse.

The point is that you gotta keep challenging yourself and remain mindful of when something isn’t working for you…then change it up!

You gotta try new things.

Be flexible about what route you take to reach your goals. The path that you take to get to them doesn’t really matter. All that matters is that you don’t forget what your goals are.

Realize that sometimes we encounter detours on our way to the final destination and that’s okay… you just gotta be determined to get there.

stf,small,600x600-c,0,0,1000,1000.u1

Don’t allow frustration to set in when things don’t go as planned. Chances are they didn’t work out because you weren’t on the right track.

(I’m a big believer the Universe is guiding us through life and if we miss the subtle hints it leaves for us, it will just keep rerouting us toward our destination.)

Just keep your eye on the prize and keep moving toward it!

 

2 Comments

Filed under Health & Fitness

Celebrate the Small Things

The Secret of Change Quote

You have to keep your mind positive on this journey.

If you only focus on the mistakes you make or how far you have to go, you’ll get discouraged and quit.

(Raise your hand if you’ve been there and done that. – If you don’t raise your hand you’re lying and we both know it!)

When you’re feeling frustrated I want you to make a list of all of the new habits you’ve started or something you did today that the old you would have never done. Once you list is complete, celebrate the fuck out of it.

Examples of what could go on this list:

  • Ordered a lettuce wrap instead of a bun.
  • Only had a few fries or skipped the fries instead of inhaling a large without thinking twice.
  • Boxed up half of an order before eating, while at a restaurant.
  • Woke up early to workout or read some personal development.
  • Did a workout after work instead of laying on the couch watching Netflix.
  • Did a workout even though you really didn’t want to.

You get the point, right?!

These might sound like small things, but those small things will snowball into an avalanche that will change your life!

If you follow me on Instagram or have been reading this blog for awhile, you might be sick of hearing me talk about the small things, but it’s true. Small positive actions compound over time to make drastic change!

Don’t believe me, go read a book called The Compound Effect or The Slight Edge!

You have to keep your mindset positive and if you have a hard time doing that, you may want to take a closer look at the people you surround yourself with.

Those closest to you should be supportive, celebrate your small accomplishments and  remind you of them when you’re feeling down. They should want to see you succeed!

If instead, they are fueling the negative thoughts or peer pressuring you into behavior that won’t get you to your goals, it might be time to look at that relationship a little closer and maybe put some distance into place.

I know no one wants to hear that, and it’s even tougher when it’s a family member, but you have to make yourself a priority and your goals are important!

So what small thing can you do today to help get you closer to your goal? Leave a comment below or let me know via Twitter or Instagram!

 

Leave a comment

Filed under Health & Fitness

Intention vs Motivation

 

Get Fit With Nikki - Before &amp; After

I’m by no means full of myself, but when it comes to weight loss, I like to think I know a thing or two about it.

Back in late 2009 I started my fitness journey and when I did, I had no idea that by 2010, I would be celebrating a 100+ lb loss. I also REALLY had no idea that I would keep that weight off until today.

You see, all of my attempts before weren’t successful. I tried all of the fad shakes, teas, weight loss programs, women’s gyms…you name it. But shortly after starting, I’d always find a way to stop and lose “motivation”.

It wasn’t until I changed how I looked at things that I saw REAL change.

Intention vs Motivation is what it came down to for me.
Intention
When I sat around waiting to be motivated, I left my fate up to an outside force.

We’re all guilty of turning to Pinterest for some motivational quotes to fire us up. Or maybe you log on to Instagram for some motivation but end up feeling bad about yourself and your progress after scrolling through everyone else’s posts (Comparison is the thief of joy and needs to be it’s own post.)

It wasn’t until I intentionally began to schedule my workouts and meal prep, that I stuck to it.

Once I made the things that would get me to my goal a non-negotiable, a positive shift began to happen. At first it seemed like a punishment, but after a little time, I began to look forward to it. The workout and the meal prep was my time… it was self care, things that I did to take care of myself and you know what?! ….making yourself a priority is a good thing, people!

We schedule things like doctor appointments, play dates, volunteering at our kids schools and lunch/dinner with friends, so why shouldn’t we schedule workouts and meal prep for ourselves?

Would you cancel any of the above things last minute, because you just wanted to sit on the couch and watch Netflix? I’m going to assume the answer to that is no, but I know you should never assume anything.

Anyway…what I have found to be the key with this healthy living stuff is NOT motivation, but rather INTENTION… because intention puts all of the power in your hands. It puts you in full control of the outcome because you’re not relying on an outside force to motivate you into action.

Basically it means you have to own your shit, there is no blaming anyone or anything else when you live with intention. That’s not an easy pill to swallow, but if you’re looking for a magic pill with this weight loss stuff…this is the one you need.

See how powerful that shift in mindset can be?! Crazy right?

Leave a comment

Filed under Health & Fitness