The irony in this is that I know there is no such thing as perfection and I tell people on a daily basis that they don’t have to be perfect, they just need to do their best. One would think I would take my own advice, but I don’t.
I have a tendency to set very high goals for myself, and when I fall short of them, I beat myself up.
Some might say my high standards are why I have had such success with my lifestyle changes, and it probably is. Setting the bar high makes me work hard toward my goals, however, when I fall short of my goals, I tend to beat myself up and that is not good.
Recognizing this problem is step one in my being able to fix it. I need to learn how to cut myself some slack, and show myself some love. I need to learn how to focus on the progress I’ve made and not dwell on what I wasn’t able to do.
I also need to learn that I am not Super Woman and I can NOT do it all. I am one of those people who don’t know how to ask for help. I’ve always been so independent that asking for help is like showing weakness to me, but it’s not weakness, it’s being human…and I know that I need to learn how to delegate.
I’ve come so far in the past four years, but my self esteem isn’t where it should be and that is because I spent so much time being a perfectionist.
A year ago, I would have never logged the miles running that I have this year. Instead of being happy about the miles logged or the fact that I’ve been dedicated enough to go out when it was 21 degrees or raining, I’ve spent time beating myself up because I haven’t increased my speed or because I took time off and didn’t log as many as I could have. This is not a healthy way to view things and I am working on changing that.
Personal development has played a big role in my life the past few weeks and I hope to free myself of this perfectionist pipe dream soon.
Do you hold yourself to high standards? Do you tend to overlook your accomplishments and only focus on your short comings? Read any good personal development books lately? If so, I’d love for you to share below!